7 Huge Differences Between Sex and Love

There are many differences between sex and love. #Women enjoy seeing passionate love making in the movies, but sometimes are disappointed by their own experience that doesn't even come close. There is something so sensual and #beautiful  when two people have chemistry together. But that isn't always the case when it comes to sex. Sometimes #people  have sex just to have sex.  #Below ,  I'm going to share with you 7 big differences between sex and love!

1. KNOWING EACH OTHER

The first time you are with someone can sometimes be a bit awkward. It takes time to get to know someone's #body  and pleasure points. When you are in love with someone the #time  you put into getting to know each other's bodies is intimate. You take pleasure in making sure you know what makes them tick. When you have sex with someone and you're just doing it to do it, that is a clear difference between sex and love. Sex is a physical act and when looking at it without any spark or chemistry thats when the love  is missing.

2. FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

A lot of people say you can't be friends with benefits  without someone developing feelings, which does tend to be true. But what is going on before those feelings are involved is simply a platonic need to fill ones craving for sex. If you both find each other attractive, and can turn each other on, then why not enjoy the #benefits ? When the feelings do become involved it becomes more then just a physical act. But again, they are feelings and emotions which is what love  is. So just remember if you want to enjoy the friends part, stick to keeping a clear vision that it is not a #relationship !  Remember, having fears of being intimate is something that everyone deals with.

3. FOREPLAY

One of the best things I have heard is foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom, it starts in the flirting. When you first meet someone and have that chemistry, the sexual tension  in itself is foreplay. Sex is just an action, but falling in love includes the foreplay. Foreplay means you don't want to rush sex, you want to take your #time  and enjoy every bit of it. When there is no #foreplay  there's no desire in wanting to please each other, and that is a major difference between sex and love.

4. ORGASM

A lot of #people misconstrue an orgasm as love. That toe curling, body shaking, want to scream from the top of your lungs feeling doesn't mean you just experienced love. It is just another part of sex, but getting to that moment does include intense passion and love between a #partner. it's hard to find yourself having the big "O" without being able to connect with the person.

5. SEX IS A RELEASE

Sex isn't just about romance. Sometimes #people  use sex as a release the same way you want an after work drink. This is a big difference between sex and love. Love includes emotions, while sex is just the action. Having sex with someone is a release for yourself and can be a purely selfish motive. When you are doing it for that reason, it's not about love .

6. SELFLESSNESS

Love makes you want to please every part of your #partner physically and emotionally. There is something about it that feeds you inside. Think of every romance movie you have seen where the #guy  courts, woos, and pleasures the woman he is fond over. It is never a rushed experience, but a sensual, caressing, and selfless moment. This is a big difference between sex and love. In comparison, sex can be fast with a goal of get off, and get done. When you're motive is selfish it's not about the love .

7. CHEMISTRY

Think of the movie, 'How to Lose a #Guy  in 10 Days' where Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson have that epic moment in the shower where you literally see them fall in love with each other. It is not the most romantic love story but it is one I feel most #women  can relate too. There's that moment in a relationship when you connect with your #partner  on a new level, "love making" as most people call it. That chemistry is something two #people  can create only when you have love between you two. Of course you can have sexual #attraction  to each other and a spark. That's what makes sex hot and steamy, but it is not the full definition of lovemaking. There's all different levels of chemistry with someone, its just seeing where you truly connect.

A lot of times girls get confused with the differences between sex and love, but I hope these are helpful in relating to your experiences. With these in mind, whether you are single or in a #relationship , think about how you feel when you are with someone and if its truly love or truly a hot, steamy, passionate sex endeavor? Have you ever confused sex with love?

Original Article: allwomenstalk.com

Sure Ways to be Irresistible to Men

by Sabrina Alexis

Being irresistible to men isn’t about playing games, manipulation, or forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. It’s not about what you wear or achieving a certain beauty look.

Being the kind of girl who intrigues a man to the point of real interest, and interests a man to the point where he is eager to commit, starts from within and then radiates outward. It’s important to have an awareness of what it is men want and also an understanding of why developing these traits will not only help you in dating and relationships, but will make your life better overall.

Over the years, I’ve analyzed and interviewed countless men. Through my research, I’ve discovered five traits that men across the board find irresistible in a woman. Learning what they are will help you attract the right guy if you’re single, and will help you re-ignite the spark if you’re already in a relationship.

Here they are:

1. Be Confident

This one is the winner every time. Guys want a confident, happy woman. A woman who loves herself, knows her worth, and knows she can get what she wants in this world.

Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships. It gives you the confidence to choose who to be with and to believe someone worthwhile will want to be with you.

If you have low self-esteem, make it a priority to work on this. Learn to find more joy and meaning in your life. Until you get there, act like someone with high self-esteem. This means not being jealous of other people, not needing guys to validate you, not putting yourself down and complaining about your life.

Try to maintain a vision of who you want to be, and what confidence looks like, and try to act accordingly.

2. Be a Mystery 

The only way to turn attraction into passion is to insert your way into a man’s thoughts. This doesn’t mean wearing something revealing so he’s picturing you naked while talking to you. It means making a strong impression, one that leaves him unable to stop thinking about you for days.

The best way to do this is to be a little mysterious. Be vague with the stories you tell him, this will cause him to ask more questions about you which will build intrigue. And don’t feel the need to tell him everything about yourself, just drop some clues and let him figure it out. The human mind loves to fill in missing gaps. A good way to monitor yourself is to only reveal as much as he reveals to you.
Being a mystery does not mean acting cold or bitchy. It means you only show him certain sides of yourself to start. The best way to start things off is to show him you’re a happy, confident, fun girl.

These are qualities every guys wants in a woman so he will immediately be drawn to you.

Also, don’t be too obvious with your level of interest. Give him just enough so he knows he has a chance, but not so much that he considers it a sure thing.

Studies have shown that we are most attracted to people when we don’t know exactly how they feel about us. If he knows exactly where you stand he’ll get bored and move on. If he knows he doesn’t have a chance, he won’t want to bother. If he thinks he might have a chance,  you’ll have his full attention.

3. Be Easy to be Around- No Drama

Men like their lives to be easy and pleasant, no muss no fuss. The biggest turn off to a guy is a drama queen who makes mountains out of every molehill.

The way guys  see it, they have enough stress in their lives as is and a relationship should be an escape from that.

If you’re cool and easy to be around, men will want to be around you!

Smile, relax, don’t over think or overanalyze. If you can take a more easygoing approach to relationships (and life in general), then suddenly, and without much effort, things will start to work out how you want them to.

4. Embrace Your Femininity

Most men want to feel like the man. The best way to encourage this is to embrace your femininity.

Tap into your soft, gentle, graceful side, we all have it in is somewhere.

I know today’s society encourages women to be bold, tough, and aggressive. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be a strong woman, I’m just saying to temper this out a bit by not neglecting your femininity.

Men want to be the providers, they want to feel like the man. If you dress like a girl, act like a girl, and let him take care of you a bit, you’ll tap into a deep fundamental need of his and he won’t want to let you go.

5. Have Your Own Life

A man’s greatest fear is losing his freedom and being trapped in a relationship. Men pick up on how much you need them and instantly feel pressured and back off.

If you have your own life (and maintain the life you had before the relationship once you’re in it), he won’t feel this pressure and will give more of himself to you.

No matter what stage of a relationship you’re in, it’s essential to remain passionate about your life and to never stop setting goals for yourself and pursuing your dreams. A relationship isn’t an final destination. It’s part of the journey that can help you reach your potential and get exactly what it is you want out of life.


Original Article: anewmode.com

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Ask Karinna: Unconscious Loving

Dear Karinna,

I have lost faith in relationships. Whenever I am in one there is always some intolerable dynamics or behaviors that end the relationship. Why can't love be loving?
V

V,
Sounds like you have been faced with your share of Unconscious Love Behaviors in relationships. This is what will turn any relationship downhill.

Unconscious Loving Behavior can show up as:

Words not matching actions
Lack of follow through
Lying
Manipulation sexually, emotionally, or mentally
Passive Aggressive Behavior
Repetitive Angry Outbursts
Verbal or Physical Abuse
Betrayal

You should not learn to tolerate these behaviors. You need to learn to be keenly conscious in your love dynamics from start to finish. Use these steps:
Spot These Behaviors
Call Them for What They Are
Be Proactive
Hold Accountable Yourself and Partner in These Dynamics


What creates escalating issues in a relationship is when you see unconscious behavior taking place the first, second, third time and you let is slide and slide.

You do this out of a feeling of need for the relationship and you set yourself up for unfulfilling and disrespectful dynamics in the relationship to continue...these types of dynamics drain you and make you question your confidence, self worth, and your decision making. They make you feel weak and worse for being in the relationship.

To have a truly conscious loving relationship it takes courage, proactivity, a high level of accountability and a sincere willingness to let go. If you use this protocol from start to finish in your relationships you will not be disappointed. Each step will be confidence and strength training for you until you ultimately attract and develop a healthy, conscious loving relationship with someone that wants and demands that standard of relating too.
Use Intimate Wisdom to support your process.

Love Tips: How to Fight Fair

How you argue with your partner determines the success of your relationship.  This article offers love tips to really understand how to fight or end a fight without losing your control.  This is something that you need to learn.  Control is actually a primary requirement for fighting fair.  Regardless of how you feel, you cannot be abusive.

Disagreements will happen.  It happens in any relationship.  You will have different opinions and you will likely argue with your partner.  It is important, therefore, that you know how to fight fair.  Here are some great love tips on how to do just that.

First off, if you would like to fight fair, you need to ask your partner if you could engage in a conversation or discussion.  Just like aristocratic Europeans who invite their opponents to a duel, you should ask your partner or your lover if you could bring up a point of conflict.  You could begin by asking, “Can I bring an observation to your attention that I would like your thoughts about?”  If he or she is open to that discussion, then you can proceed in a calm voice.  If he or she is not open to this discussion, then you can ask them when it might be a better time, but don’t let the tension last before you go to sleep.  You need to resolve any conflict between you and your spouse as soon as you can.  Letting it simmer will eventually take the joy and ease out of your relationship.

These love tips will help you resolve conflicts without fighting dirty.  A fight often starts when two people rub each other the wrong way.  A simple observation could offend the more sensitive couple and this could spark a huge fight.  The difference in the couple’s attitudes, priorities and views can trigger a fight.  When faced with this kind of fight, you have two choices:  you could either fight in order to win or you could choose to engage in a conflict resolution discussion.  The latter choice allows you to find common ground which will help you empower yourselves as individuals and strengthen your relationship.  The first choice aims to dominate; the second choice aims to strengthen a partnership.

Love Tip Steps on Fighting Fair

1.  Begin your sentences with “I feel” when talking to your spouse.  Often, people do not see themselves clearly in a conflict; so it is important that you stay calm and you talk about your feelings instead of enumerating all his or her flaws or faults.  Talking about how you feel makes a lot of difference in a conversation.

2.  Consider how your partner feels too.  There is always room for constructive observation and feedback.  You need to look and consider your partner’s point of view and feelings as well and communicate those observations.  You need to find the balance between honoring your point of view and respecting your partner’s views as well.

Don’t be afraid of conflict. Conflict can be increasingly averted in your intimate relationship by understanding where each person is coming from. Your abilities to fight fair can help strengthen your relationship.

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Dating Tips: Are You Moving Out Too Fast?

Are you being too hard on singles you’re dating? Have you gone out with different people and discover yourself moving out right away the minute you see something you’re not really happy with? Are you reading the signs and then moving out fast too early? Are you so afraid of wasting your time on the wrong person that you find yourself failing to give anyone the chance to get close to you?

Imagine being out on a date with a guy who used a coupon on your first date just to buy popcorn and calculated his expenses for the entire evening even before the movie starts. Would that be a deal maker or a deal breaker? Would you consider dating the same person again?

The signs are glaringly obvious right from the very beginning. When you see signs that indicate characteristics like this they will likely end up there in the long run. If the man you’re dating is using coupons for popcorn in your first date, you will have a specific reaction—positive or negative. Your reaction is valid. This is a characteristic that you may decide you are attracted to or not. Is it a characteristic of being conscious of budgeting and money (all good) to be generous to you?

There is one characteristic that you should always look for and that characteristic is generosity. It is not just generosity that comes out of the wallet, but emotional, mental, physical and spiritual generosity. An emotionally generous person is someone who is compassionate, kind, sensitive and thoughtful towards you and others. If you are attracting singles who are selfish, you should consider taking a good look at yourself. You might want to ask yourself why you are attracting these kinds of singles in the first place.

You should consider turning to your heart and asking yourself, “Am I really open to love?” It is worth asking yourself if you are guarding yourself, keeping people at arm’s length until you find someone who is worth opening yourself up to. It does not work that way. The ability to attract someone who is generous and open to love is directly proportional to your own generosity and openness as well.

Do you know that you can physically check whether your heart is open or not? Here is a quick exercise to help you out. Tune into your heart and feel it. Is it light? Does it feel open, or does it feel heavy and closed? Check your shoulders. Do they roll back or do they look forward? You should keep them back, so that love and lightness will flow through your heart. This is an exercise that will help you attract people who are also open to love and generosity and hopefully conscious and good with money too!!

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Overcoming the Fear of Falling In Love Again

It is not unusual for some people to fear falling in love again. There are people who are wary of the emotions that come with “falling in love”. They are wary of losing control. If you are one of these people, you need to understand where the fear is coming from. Why are you afraid? What is in your way? What limiting fears or perceptions are holding you back? Do you want to be in a relationship? Are you paralyzed by your fear?

Hurt is unavoidable. Couples can hurt each other. This happens even in the very best of relationships. It is less likely to occur, however, if you have some few rules you observe right at the beginning of a relationship. These rules are simple. You just have to know them.

Know Who You Are

It is important that you know who you are and you accept – and love yourself – before you even consider entering into any relationship. You need to know who you are physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. You need to define your needs at the very core level of each of these areas.

This way, you will know what you want in a relationship. Although it is tempting to look firstly for external qualities, particularly in the person you want to be with, you need to seek internal qualities just as much. Both will matter in the long run.

Write down your needs and look at your list until it has become a part of your consciousness. You need to be specific, so that you will be able to attract people who share a similar perspective on love and values for loving. With this met requirement it will help you overcome your fear of falling in-love or entering into another relationship.

Take Responsibility for Your Choice

Everyone has a certain level of maturity, emotional, spiritual, mental and physical. This is why you need to know what you want so that you will attract people of the similar level of development. It takes certain maturity in these areas in order to build and sustain a healthy and dynamic relationship.

When you choose someone who does not share a similar perspective on love, you will likely be confronted with issues that will hurt you or will hurt your relationship. For instance, if you are a person who wants kids, look for someone who wants kids as well. Do not think that he or she will someday change his mind.

Take responsibility for your choice. Practice discernment. In the end, it is up to you to choose the right person for you. Your fear of love and relationships is easier to overcome if you choose the right person.

How to Keep Money Issues from Messing Up Your Own Romantic Relationship

Money issue is usually an induce point for couples’ misunderstandings. Along with factors behind reasons, money troubles include messing up with your own romantic relationship. Couples chat impatiently in relation to young children, interpersonal blueprints as well as property, nonetheless seldom can they discuss willingly about income. Of course, revenue matters are seldom intimate; and so, it can be glaringly obvious those money issues may cause large difficulties for partners. It could make or separate a relationship.

Where Will The Challenge Sit?

Money concerns can certainly arise from a variety of trouble spots:
1. How budgets are currently being handled. Generally, one companion remains with all the responsibility with managing the budget. This contains cash strategy, paying the bills, etc. This can be very tense for that spouse executing a cash strategy. He or the lady may possibly think there're currently being saddled considering the responsibilities plus anxieties.
2. Couples have several perceptions towards money. People currently have diverse attitude toward money. While a few generally is a miser, people can be quite a spendthrift. This unique perspective generally displays this couple’s unique priorities too. While one companion could concern coming into financial debt, other partner will have a mellow frame of mind when it comes to financial loans plus credit. This also demonstrates crucial variations in a couple’s watch towards other parts which include relatives and children.
3. Deeper underlying troubles influencing the couple. Frequently, funds difficulties may be a symptom of the even larger romance issue. Often, quarrels aren't whatever they be visible on the finish. Once the top is definitely scraped, income misunderstandings may show a great deal larger along with more intense troubles.

How to Retain Money Issues out of Damaging Your Own Partnership

Before you even get into just about any relationship, you need to inspire on your own initially. You ought to acquire yourself without a doubt. If you're a holistic man or woman, it is also possible to be able to on purpose go with a lover who seems to explain to you the same interests, landscapes and point of view.

Young people need revenue to reside. Occasionally, you will discover people who wish a plentiful life-style. A few which you pick is one who is actually inwardly and outwardly compatible with you. He or she ought to be a person that explains to you related interest close to money.

Generally, folk have his or her group of weaknesses and strengths. They are fascinated by other people who showcase advantages throughout areas where they're poor. Since both partners work on developing and developing areas that can become healthier, they have got better chances with developing their variances plus working away issues, which include money.

Real relationships develop when you're compatible with another person in your mind, emotionally, physically, and emotionally therefore you really are serious about and like the way your relationship goes and also leisure activities that your romantic relationship produces out for any wholesome, pleased, as well as abounding life-including on your path of financial freedom.

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