Wednesday, September 09, 2015

7 Huge Differences Between Sex and Love

There are many differences between sex and love. #Women enjoy seeing passionate love making in the movies, but sometimes are disappointed by their own experience that doesn't even come close. There is something so sensual and #beautiful  when two people have chemistry together. But that isn't always the case when it comes to sex. Sometimes #people  have sex just to have sex.  #Below ,  I'm going to share with you 7 big differences between sex and love!


The first time you are with someone can sometimes be a bit awkward. It takes time to get to know someone's #body  and pleasure points. When you are in love with someone the #time  you put into getting to know each other's bodies is intimate. You take pleasure in making sure you know what makes them tick. When you have sex with someone and you're just doing it to do it, that is a clear difference between sex and love. Sex is a physical act and when looking at it without any spark or chemistry thats when the love  is missing.


A lot of people say you can't be friends with benefits  without someone developing feelings, which does tend to be true. But what is going on before those feelings are involved is simply a platonic need to fill ones craving for sex. If you both find each other attractive, and can turn each other on, then why not enjoy the #benefits ? When the feelings do become involved it becomes more then just a physical act. But again, they are feelings and emotions which is what love  is. So just remember if you want to enjoy the friends part, stick to keeping a clear vision that it is not a #relationship !  Remember, having fears of being intimate is something that everyone deals with.


One of the best things I have heard is foreplay doesn't start in the bedroom, it starts in the flirting. When you first meet someone and have that chemistry, the sexual tension  in itself is foreplay. Sex is just an action, but falling in love includes the foreplay. Foreplay means you don't want to rush sex, you want to take your #time  and enjoy every bit of it. When there is no #foreplay  there's no desire in wanting to please each other, and that is a major difference between sex and love.


A lot of #people misconstrue an orgasm as love. That toe curling, body shaking, want to scream from the top of your lungs feeling doesn't mean you just experienced love. It is just another part of sex, but getting to that moment does include intense passion and love between a #partner. it's hard to find yourself having the big "O" without being able to connect with the person.


Sex isn't just about romance. Sometimes #people  use sex as a release the same way you want an after work drink. This is a big difference between sex and love. Love includes emotions, while sex is just the action. Having sex with someone is a release for yourself and can be a purely selfish motive. When you are doing it for that reason, it's not about love .


Love makes you want to please every part of your #partner physically and emotionally. There is something about it that feeds you inside. Think of every romance movie you have seen where the #guy  courts, woos, and pleasures the woman he is fond over. It is never a rushed experience, but a sensual, caressing, and selfless moment. This is a big difference between sex and love. In comparison, sex can be fast with a goal of get off, and get done. When you're motive is selfish it's not about the love .


Think of the movie, 'How to Lose a #Guy  in 10 Days' where Matthew McConaghey and Kate Hudson have that epic moment in the shower where you literally see them fall in love with each other. It is not the most romantic love story but it is one I feel most #women  can relate too. There's that moment in a relationship when you connect with your #partner  on a new level, "love making" as most people call it. That chemistry is something two #people  can create only when you have love between you two. Of course you can have sexual #attraction  to each other and a spark. That's what makes sex hot and steamy, but it is not the full definition of lovemaking. There's all different levels of chemistry with someone, its just seeing where you truly connect.
A lot of times girls get confused with the differences between sex and love, but I hope these are helpful in relating to your experiences. With these in mind, whether you are single or in a #relationship , think about how you feel when you are with someone and if its truly love or truly a hot, steamy, passionate sex endeavor? Have you ever confused sex with love?
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Monday, August 31, 2015

Bring the Romance Back

Love is supposed to be in the air all year long and not just during Valentine's, birthdays and special holidays. In this time and age, we are too wrapped up in a lot of things such as our work, sports matches on tv that we forget some of the things that matters the most our partner, other half, honey, wife, husband,soulmate, we forget about the person we truly love us and that we love back.

Admit it, all of us are guilty one way or another. But it is never too late to catch up, isn't it? Well, let's certainly hope not! Here are a few tips to bring back the flame in your relationship..Let's see if we can work this out:

1. Skip The Take-Out. Surprise your partner with a home-cooked meal from time to time. It feels so nice to come home to the smell of grandma's age-old recipe, a rip-off from a cookbook or even a new concoction that someone discovered from Mount Tralala.

2. Turn off your phone. If things are heating up and you feel the need to PROCREATE, you better turn off your phone before you start your engine! Imagine when you're about to climax and the phone rings, it is a major turn off! It kills the momentum! Okay, I think I stressed too much on that, hehe.

3. Text or call no more than 2-3 times per day. All right people, this is a golden rule! It is nice to read an sms saying how much you care for each other but more than 3 a day is like what 15-16 year old's do. Anyway, 2-3 times of I-Love-You's sound like you really mean it. Agree? Checking up on him/her 20 times a day is so annoying. So, it's a matter of trusting the one on the other end.

4. Welcome mornings together. We all have morning breath, so let's say it's even. Kiss each other the moment you wake up, it'll make for a good start. If you have time, eat breakfast together. 15-20 minutes of morning chat is good for the both of you.

5. Take turns in taking care of the kids. To those couples with kids, it is the rule of thumb to share the responsibilities. Sometimes, moms feel the need for a trip to the salon or a night out with girlfriends. Sometimes, the dads feel the need to attend fantasy football club meetings or an October-fest during July. So all you have to do is to take turns in order not to be burned-out. Go ahead and spend some time-out from each other. Look what happened to Jon and Kate.

6. Shave. Okay, this sounds dumb but I guess it works. When you take care of yourself, it sends a message to your partner's brain that you are prepping up for him/her. It means that you want to be desirable in his/her eyes. So go ahead, surprise him with a brazilian wax one of these days! And for men, please don't forget the nose hair trimmer.

7. Go out together with his/her friends. Of course it's a given that you have different set of friends. But sometimes, it will do the both of you good if you get to know who belongs into your partner's clique. Go on and take the girlfriends out of town or the big boys into a sports game or something like that. It's sexy knowing that you care enough to know what's happening in your partner's circle.

8. Compromise. When things don't go well together, arguments take the best out of the situation. Learn to compromise and avoid relationship pitfalls such as conflicting schedules, making the other one feel taken for granted, or even promises that weren't kept. It works well in the bedroom as well!

9. Lingerie. It doesn't matter whether your love handles is as many as your fingers, lingerie is the way to go when you want sizzle instead of fizzle. It excites the brain. Some prefer tattered t-shirt and boxers or even birthday suit, though. Choose whatever works for you. If it takes a pair of red stilettos or a pair of boxers, so be it!

10. Do something together. Jogging, bingo, disco, watching tv there are a jillion things to do that can remind you how you used to enjoy hanging out with your best person in the whole world. Reminisce how the two of you met, it always works too!

Relationships are to be built on the context of love, trust and friendship. These are just tips, it will all boil down as to how you feel, how you see and how you value your significant other that can determine if romance will bounce back. Good luck, folks! 

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Saturday, August 29, 2015

7 Surefire Ways for Attracting True Love!

by Joy Weston

"How do you spell Love? You don't spell it...You feel it." 
Winnie the Pooh -- A. Milne

Love, Love, Love, Love, LOVE... I could repeat that word over and over again... and each time my mind comes up with a different form of it that activates yet another delicious sense. Love is such a wonderful sensation, but unfortunately so many men and women are really so confused about it. They seem to get in their own way when it comes to finding True Love. 

So often I am asked, "Where do you go to find it and how do you attract it once you do? Then once you have it, how can you tell if it's the real thing; i.e. True Love?" Whew, it's exhausting! But as Mark Twain said, "Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired," and who doesn't want that?
But let's get something clear -- no matter what the movies and novels want us to believe, Love at first sight doesn't really exist. Sexual attraction is such a huge part of dating that it's not surprising many of us get confused between what is LOVE and the feeling of Lust, which is an intense desire for someone. 

Most people think of LOVE as a verb, "a feeling that is displayed in many varied actions and serves to indicate the occurrence or performance of an action. Certain kinds of expressed feelings that most people experience when in Love." That is a fine explanation, except it's not quite the whole truth. 

Yes, it's true, LOVE is a "doing" word that can convey a physical or mental action or a state of being, but that is just too simplistic an answer. Love really originates as a noun that necessarily produces verbs. Love at its source creates it all, including everyone and everything. Our actions are merely manifestations of that Love.

To attract Love you need to understand that LOVE is first and foremost created in your mind. So your most important on-going work is to learn to Love yourself so completely you are never in need of someone else to complete you. Whoever you are and whatever you have done or are doing, trust me when I say, right now, YOU are more than enough just as you are.

Once I realized that the quality and quantity of LOVE I received from others was a direct reflection of how much, or how little, I truly loved and cared for myself, I made loving all of myself a top priority. The moment I began to assume the responsibilities of that job was the moment I began to attract the quality of people who were capable and wanted to love me as I have learned to Love myself.

When it comes to the heart, in order to receive true LOVE from another, it must first be expressed as an action. Behaving lovingly towards another shows that we love that person. When they behave lovingly in return, we feel loved. But just like you can talk loving without really loving, you can act loving without really loving.
Real LOVE, True LOVE, Deep LOVE doesn't want to own, control or possess you. It wants you to always feel supported, honored, adored, cherished and encouraged to be bigger and better. It is the desire to see yourself and the person you care for grow into the best people you can possibly be, no matter what, under all circumstances. So the more honesty and passion you can bring into your own self-relationship, the easier it will be to attract someone who shares those same qualities.
LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE... in all its various forms is the greatest of the God-given gifts. It is everywhere. "It is the essence we breathe, the essence of our heart- beat." It has all the power to add to, change, even alter and transform difficult challenges and circumstances into golden opportunities that can make your wildest dreams come true. It can turn a stranger into a life partner and the best of friends. And favorite emotion of all, is the beautiful voice of LOVE heard around the world and remembered forever.

Seven JOY-filled Surefire Secrets for Attracting True Love. 

1. Start by loving yourself unabashedly and without restrain. Become your most attentive lover and you can attract a true love from want and not need.
2. Open your heart to what's possible. Begin to take down the walls that have "protected you" from receiving the kind of love you desire and deserve.
3. Stop, Look, and Listen for the signs of real love that won't take NO for an answer and keeps moving forward with positive, loving actions.
4. Seek out the best kind of relationship; one where you are not only lovers, but trust-worthy best friends as well. Someone who cares and supports your goals.
5. Make Extraordinary your mirrored reflection. NEVER give your love to anyone who treats you as if you are ordinary. NEVER settle for less than you give.
6. Give and expect open-hearted acceptance. When you feel validated and approved of, it lights up the way for you to walk in the same direction toward happiness.
7. Have enough courage to trust loving one more time, and possibly even one more time again.

They might be right, "LOVE is nothing but a silly old fashioned notion," but it's also the closest thing we have to magic. So "What's love got to do with it?" Simply Everything! En-JOY!

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Wednesday, August 26, 2015

10 Fun Ideas for Couples

by Shelli Proffitt Howells

Marriage is supposed to be fun! If you've fallen into a rut and forgotten that, it is time to find fun activities you and your spouse can enjoy together.

Happiness is being married to your best friend. But maybe these days, your husband is sitting at the computer playing video games while you sit on the couch knitting, and you feel more like comfortable strangers or accidental roommates than best friends.

It doesn't have to be that way. You can easily recapture the fun of your dating days by finding activities that you and your spouse can enjoy together.

Take an interest in your spouse's activities

Ladies, you don't have to be a football widow every fall. Learn the rules of the game and get to know some of the players. You might enjoy rooting for the underdog.

Men, you like to eat, don't you? Offer to plan a gourmet dinner you could cook together. You can choose a meal full of your favorites, or maybe you'll want to try something unusual and different.

My husband enjoys watching MMA, otherwise known as Ultimate Fighting. I started watching with him. I learned some of the athletes' histories, which made them more interesting to me. I discovered that it isn't as brutal a sport as it first appears, and there is a lot of strategy involved. I really enjoy going out to dinner at a sports bar and watching the fights. It has become a fun way to spend time together.

Invite your spouse to try something you enjoy

Ladies, your husband might not be content to sit quietly by your side and knit, but I'm sure there are a lot of other things that you do that will entertain him. Share your interests in literature, music and movies.

I'm an avid book lover. My husband will read many of the books I've recommended. We discuss it after he has finished, so it is kind of like our own personal book club.

He, on the other hand, loves discovering the latest, coolest bands. He shares with me the newest CDs that have come out, and we watch music videos together. We also enjoy going out to concerts.

Men, do you like playing video games? Invite your wife to join you. Many video games are multi-player and easy to pick up. Some games are more wife-friendly than others. Choose one that has role playing, encourage her to create a sexy character and flirt while you quest together.

Learn something new together

It's time to get out of that rut and try something new. Lifestyle Updated points out that learning something new can boost your self-esteem and give you a sense of accomplishment and pride. More importantly, perhaps, US News reports that trying new and challenging activities with your spouse can boost the brain chemical dopamine, which helps fuel sex drive.

Here are some ideas for hobbies you can do as a couple.

  • Arts and crafts. Take an art class together. Learn ceramics, photography or woodworking.
  • Outdoors. Go camping or hiking. Try spelunking, which is exploring caves. Learn how to canoe. If you live near the beach, try surfing, snorkeling or scuba diving.
  • Sports. Join a bowling league. Ride bicycles together. Take a dance class together or go line dancing. Learn to ride horses. Try racquet sports like tennis or racquetball. Learn an unusual sport like archery or sailing.
  • Culture. Visit art galleries or museums. Go to a comedy club. Watch a play or ballet. Go to a concert together.
  • Collecting. Visit auctions and collect antiques. Go to car shows. Collect coins, comic books or sports memorabilia. Visit a flea market for unusual finds. See if you can repurpose and flip your items to make a profit.
  • Go extreme. If you have a real taste for adventure, try a more extreme hobby like rafting, skydiving or rock climbing. Play a game of paintball or laser tag. Buy or rent a couple of ATVs and go off-roading.

Marriage is supposed to be fun! If you've fallen into a rut and forgotten that, then it's time to try something new and rekindle your spirit of adventure.

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Monday, August 24, 2015

Sure Ways to be Irresistible to Men

by Sabrina Alexis

Being irresistible to men isn’t about playing games, manipulation, or forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. It’s not about what you wear or achieving a certain beauty look.

Being the kind of girl who intrigues a man to the point of real interest, and interests a man to the point where he is eager to commit, starts from within and then radiates outward. It’s important to have an awareness of what it is men want and also an understanding of why developing these traits will not only help you in dating and relationships, but will make your life better overall.

Over the years, I’ve analyzed and interviewed countless men. Through my research, I’ve discovered five traits that men across the board find irresistible in a woman. Learning what they are will help you attract the right guy if you’re single, and will help you re-ignite the spark if you’re already in a relationship.

Here they are:

1. Be Confident

This one is the winner every time. Guys want a confident, happy woman. A woman who loves herself, knows her worth, and knows she can get what she wants in this world.

Healthy self-esteem is a prerequisite for healthy relationships. It gives you the confidence to choose who to be with and to believe someone worthwhile will want to be with you.

If you have low self-esteem, make it a priority to work on this. Learn to find more joy and meaning in your life. Until you get there, act like someone with high self-esteem. This means not being jealous of other people, not needing guys to validate you, not putting yourself down and complaining about your life.

Try to maintain a vision of who you want to be, and what confidence looks like, and try to act accordingly.

2. Be a Mystery 

The only way to turn attraction into passion is to insert your way into a man’s thoughts. This doesn’t mean wearing something revealing so he’s picturing you naked while talking to you. It means making a strong impression, one that leaves him unable to stop thinking about you for days.

The best way to do this is to be a little mysterious. Be vague with the stories you tell him, this will cause him to ask more questions about you which will build intrigue. And don’t feel the need to tell him everything about yourself, just drop some clues and let him figure it out. The human mind loves to fill in missing gaps. A good way to monitor yourself is to only reveal as much as he reveals to you.
Being a mystery does not mean acting cold or bitchy. It means you only show him certain sides of yourself to start. The best way to start things off is to show him you’re a happy, confident, fun girl.

These are qualities every guys wants in a woman so he will immediately be drawn to you.

Also, don’t be too obvious with your level of interest. Give him just enough so he knows he has a chance, but not so much that he considers it a sure thing.

Studies have shown that we are most attracted to people when we don’t know exactly how they feel about us. If he knows exactly where you stand he’ll get bored and move on. If he knows he doesn’t have a chance, he won’t want to bother. If he thinks he might have a chance,  you’ll have his full attention.

3. Be Easy to be Around- No Drama

Men like their lives to be easy and pleasant, no muss no fuss. The biggest turn off to a guy is a drama queen who makes mountains out of every molehill.

The way guys  see it, they have enough stress in their lives as is and a relationship should be an escape from that.

If you’re cool and easy to be around, men will want to be around you!

Smile, relax, don’t over think or overanalyze. If you can take a more easygoing approach to relationships (and life in general), then suddenly, and without much effort, things will start to work out how you want them to.

4. Embrace Your Femininity

Most men want to feel like the man. The best way to encourage this is to embrace your femininity.

Tap into your soft, gentle, graceful side, we all have it in is somewhere.

I know today’s society encourages women to be bold, tough, and aggressive. I’m not saying you shouldn’t be a strong woman, I’m just saying to temper this out a bit by not neglecting your femininity.

Men want to be the providers, they want to feel like the man. If you dress like a girl, act like a girl, and let him take care of you a bit, you’ll tap into a deep fundamental need of his and he won’t want to let you go.

5. Have Your Own Life

A man’s greatest fear is losing his freedom and being trapped in a relationship. Men pick up on how much you need them and instantly feel pressured and back off.

If you have your own life (and maintain the life you had before the relationship once you’re in it), he won’t feel this pressure and will give more of himself to you.

No matter what stage of a relationship you’re in, it’s essential to remain passionate about your life and to never stop setting goals for yourself and pursuing your dreams. A relationship isn’t an final destination. It’s part of the journey that can help you reach your potential and get exactly what it is you want out of life.

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Saturday, August 22, 2015

Dating After Divorce

by Jenny Erikson

Dating is rough, man. Well, sometimes it’s really good, but dang it if it doesn’t suck when that guy you thought you totally connected with doesn’t seem to return the feeling. Or maybe you’re getting along just fine, but then he says or does something that immediately snaps you to attention -- and not in a good way.

The fact of the matter is that if you’re dating after divorce, you’ve got baggage. It’s hard to go from a supposedly lifelong committed relationship to dinner with someone you met online, texted a couple of times, and maybe had a phone conversation or two with. It’s exciting, yes, but it can also be nerve-racking as all get out.

Here are some tips for surviving the beginning stages of a brand new relationship after divorce.

Remember that he’s not your ex: This is possibly the most important one to remember. Just because he mentions his mom doesn’t mean he’s a mama’s boy, and if he doesn’t text you for a day or two, it doesn’t mean he’s willfully ignoring you -- he may just be super busy. Of course he’s not perfect (neither are you) but he’s got his own unique issues that you’ll figure out eventually if the relationship keeps moving forward. For now, just enjoy the not knowing.

Don’t date to cheer yourself up: Date when you feel good enough about yourself to risk the rejection of, well, rejection. It’s highly unlikely that you’ll meet your next life partner two seconds after your marriage ended, which means that there are going to be some times where you’re just not that into each other, and of course the painful times when he’s just not that into you. Try to be in a healthy, emotional place before you open yourself up to that.

Play the field: If you’re fresh out of a divorce, chances are that you’ve been obsessing over your relationship with your ex-spouse for a while. The last thing you need is to obsess over one person again, which you may have a natural inclination to do if you put all your dating eggs in one basket.

Take care of yourself: Don’t expect a new flame to be an emotional crutch, or have anything to do with your honey-do list. This is the time to show him, but more importantly yourself, that you’re a capable lady who would like a man, but doesn’t need one.

Remember that men are like buses: Another one is always around the corner. Seriously, it’s ridiculous how many single people are out there looking for love just like you. If it doesn’t work out after a few dates with someone, don’t try to hold onto it with a death grip. Trying to fit a square peg into a round hole never does anyone any good. Take a deep breath, tell yourself you just prevented your second divorce, and let it go.

What was your biggest challenge dating after divorce?

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Friday, August 21, 2015

Sex Can Bring Your Relationship to a Higher Level

by Vanessa Luis

Sex can be a much more passionate experience when you share it with a meaningful partner. Sex may feel like a mere means of pleasure and fun but there is a lot of good that it can do for your relationship. To some people sex may seem overrated, but we give you five reasons why sex is beneficial for your relationship.

Keeps you connected

Sex is an intimate experience, which can bring you closer to your partner not just physically but emotionally. Your bedroom chemistry can also improve the chemistry in your relationship. A sexless relationship can become vulnerable over time and therefore, you need sex to keep the fire burning.

Keeps stress at bay

With the kind of lives we live, stress has become an integral part of it. This often takes a toll on your relationship. However, research shows that sex releases a feel-good chemical in the brain, which reduces stress levels. Instead of resorting to antidepressants, engage in a heated sex session to improve your well being and strengthen your relationship. 

Keeps the romance alive

Sex may seem like a physical activity but it has an emotional appeal to it. It causes the body to release oxytocin, which is also called the love hormone that will make you feel that you need to love and trust your partner. 

Keeps the hormones balanced

We’ve already mentioned that being sexually active will calm stress but apart from that it also helps your body maintain hormonal balance. This hormonal balance will calm other emotional problems like depression and anxiety and will also increase fertility. 

Keeps you both healthy

Sex can also benefit your overall health. Sex can also make you more flexible. It also acts as a metabolic and immune booster and can also fight the ageing process. This ensures that it not only keeps you and your partner healthy but also keeps your relationship vibrant.

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