If you are stuck for something to do on valentines and are all out of romantic ideas, then this infographic will give you the tips you need to really treat your partner the way they truly deserve. Plus they are all low cost ideas, to be carried out in the home, so there's no need to break the bank and they can work for anyone, on any budget. So whether you decide to draw your partner a bath or make them breakfast in bed, then have a great Valentines Day with these suggestions.
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Why is love so difficult? Why can't it be easier to love someone?
Love in itself is not difficult. The absence of love is what is difficult. And we find ourselves in relationships where there are areas that one or both partners cannot love themselves, to value who they are authentically and value the person authentically. So that is what creates strife, stress and hardship in a relationship, that lack of truly loving oneself.
So if your relationship....your love life is stressed out, difficult, tiresome and challenging all the time. Then it's because you or your partner has not done enough work on the LOVER in yourself.
The LOVER is not just what you can do in the bedroom. The LOVER knows how to love....how to be in relationship. They know how to listen...they know how to receive the other person...they know how to support another human being. Being a LOVER also translates into the bedroom: The skills you have for being with someone else's body intimately....for being present....for being sensitive to what the other person needs.... to feel turned-on and excited....to experiment and grow.
These are ways of getting to know and to love the LOVER in oneself, which makes it so much easier to love. And, that's what makes a relationship flow and gives it ease.
What makes love difficult is when one person has decided:
This is all there is
That's all I'm willing to do
I'm not interested in knowing more
I'm not interested in giving more
I'm not interested in receiving more
So, I encourage you to focus on being a LOVER. Make that part of your daily life just like brushing your teeth, just like getting on the internet...just like doing an exercise workout. Give yourself a little bit of time whether it's ten minutes to an hour of time everyday to focus on being a LOVER. This is what's going to make love a lot more fun, a lot easier..... and the days of feeling that love is difficult will slowly pass away.
It is not unusual for some people to fear falling in love again. There are people who are wary of the emotions that come with “falling in love”. They are wary of losing control. If you are one of these people, you need to understand where the fear is coming from. Why are you afraid? What is in your way? What limiting fears or perceptions are holding you back? Do you want to be in a relationship? Are you paralyzed by your fear?
Hurt is unavoidable. Couples can hurt each other. This happens even in the very best of relationships. It is less likely to occur, however, if you have some few rules you observe right at the beginning of a relationship. These rules are simple. You just have to know them.
Know Who You Are
It is important that you know who you are and you accept – and love yourself – before you even consider entering into any relationship. You need to know who you are physically, emotionally, spiritually and mentally. You need to define your needs at the very core level of each of these areas.
This way, you will know what you want in a relationship. Although it is tempting to look firstly for external qualities, particularly in the person you want to be with, you need to seek internal qualities just as much. Both will matter in the long run.
Write down your needs and look at your list until it has become a part of your consciousness. You need to be specific, so that you will be able to attract people who share a similar perspective on love and values for loving. With this met requirement it will help you overcome your fear of falling in-love or entering into another relationship.
Take Responsibility for Your Choice
Everyone has a certain level of maturity, emotional, spiritual, mental and physical. This is why you need to know what you want so that you will attract people of the similar level of development. It takes certain maturity in these areas in order to build and sustain a healthy and dynamic relationship.
When you choose someone who does not share a similar perspective on love, you will likely be confronted with issues that will hurt you or will hurt your relationship. For instance, if you are a person who wants kids, look for someone who wants kids as well. Do not think that he or she will someday change his mind.
Take responsibility for your choice. Practice discernment. In the end, it is up to you to choose the right person for you. Your fear of love and relationships is easier to overcome if you choose the right person.
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WhereWillThe ChallengeSit?
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How toRetainMoneyIssuesout ofDamagingYour OwnPartnership
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It does. Internet dating works. In truth, the Internet is one of the most popular places to look for love. “1 in 5 singles is currently in a committed relationship with someone they met on a dating site,” states Dating Site Reviews. In fact, more and more couples are meeting online. With the opening of numerous online dating avenues, it is not surprising that people are turning to the Internet to look for their true love.
Online dating does work. There are significant number of people, from all ages, who have met online and are now enjoying being in long-term relationships. Many of these people have gotten married and are really happy together. Admittedly, there are online dating sites that seem “creepy” to some, so it is a good idea to look for reputable dating sites before one creates his online dating profile.
Perfect Match and e-Harmony are just a couple of reputable online sites that you can check out. There are other online sites that are just as reputable and effective in finding people their love matches. Sacred Love, for one, utilizes essential matching points in order to determine if a member is a qualified match for another member. You will be able to determine if another member is your emotional, physical, mental or spiritual match before you even actually meet this person. It is important that you ask questions in these areas, so you will get an initial “read” of the person before you actually set up a date.
Of course, aside from online dating, there are other ways to meet people. Do not give up easily on these other avenues. For instance, you can ask your friends if they know anyone they can set you up with for a date. Your friends can invite this person over for dinner and the other party along with other friends.
You can also create a “singles night” and have single friends come over. They should invite two other single friends of the opposite sex and you can all enjoy drinks and appetizers as you socialize and get to know one another. A singles night can introduce you to a lot of new people. You can also help your single friends meet other people – and perhaps, even meet their true love. Your friends generally share the same value system and they will likely attract like-minded individuals. You have better chances of meeting people who share the same values.
Don’t turn your nose up at singles activity. Join clubs with members who are single. You can join a hiking club or a business club. You can take up ballroom dancing, hiking or yoga. These are just a few of the things that you can do in order to find singles. Does Internet dating work? Yes, it is a good way to look for your special someone.
Today I want to speak to you about your New Year in Love
What is it going to look like? What is it going to feel like? What is the experience going to be like for you? This is the perfect moment to choose... a perfect moment to start a new love life for yourself.
How would you do that? I would suggest creating a vision and I encourage you to Vision Big.
You can create a vision of love based on your deepest inner knowing of what the experience could be like for you! How would you express your love? How would you express your intellect and your spirit and your physicality?
So to craft your new vision for 2012 I want to encourage you to utilize multimedia. If you are inspired by art create a vision board. It could be out of any material or medium that you so choose. If you are business oriented person make a PowerPoint of your vision for love of in 2012. If you're a musician or musical play your guitar, drums or sing to add your talent into your vision for love in 2012.
Whatever way you choose to express yourself, really create a vision that you can grow into, that you can become more of yourself by experiencing.
Now one thing in making a vision and another in Creating the Reality of that Vision.
You Create Your Vision by keeping it as a Vigil... coming back to it, listening to it, looking at it, reading it... again and again until it becomes real. And as thing start to manifest into reality you check them off or you circle them or you draw a big smiley face on that part of the vision that is actually occurring! So you can hold your vision accountable! You can measure it!!
Now a vision will not work, even if you put the vision together, the music together or the journal together. It will not work if you keep spending your time focusing on what isn't right or what hasn't happened, what your past experiences have been like that were unfulfilling. If you keep your mind in that place, your emotions in that place this new vision cannot take root. It takes incredible discipline to be vigilant about your vision but I know that it is possible for you!!
And I want to encourage you to really go for it this year. For a New Year in Love create a vision and keep it vigil.
For some help with getting started with your New Vision in Love that will work for singles as well as couples check this out.
Today I would like to speak to you about gratitude in love.
So often we are focused on what we would rather experience in a relationship or what we are yearning to experience in our love lives. And we fail to account for the love that is actually present for us now.
And so I want to take a moment to talk about that because as we acknowledge the love that is
here for us now it provides the support for more love to grow.
I want to take this moment to acknowledge Self-Love. How do you love yourself? That is such an important part of the whole love equation. How are you loving yourself? How are you honoring yourself? How are you respecting yourself? Take that love into account, that love that is present.
I also encourage you to acknowledge family love. Loving Family Relationships that have been there for you through time. Take this moment to acknowledge them.
Also your Friends, the loving friendships that you have that have seen you through ups and downs and different stages of your life.
The Colleagues that you share with on a regular basis that you laugh with that you create with, that you work hard with. Acknowledging those relationships.
And the relationships in your Community. Whether that is at the post office, at the coffee shop, at a newstand. The people that you interact with everyday... acknowledging those relationships. And lastly, I want to acknowledge the love that is present, percolating and growing in your Intimate love life.
Wherever you are in the continuum... whether that is single, dating in a new relationship or have been with someone for decades acknowledge the love that is present for you right now. The love that is in the air, that is starting to form, that has been there and getting better with age. Taking this moment to really appreciate the love that you have in your life.
I encourage you to take a moment to write to some of the people that you love today, whether it is a line, a quote, a poem or a paragraph saying hey I really appreciate you.
I want to Thank You for being a very important part of the Sacred Love Community.
And I want to wish you a very Loving Thanksgiving!
“I have just recently divorced. The last 7 years of marriage have been terrible. I was living with a very immature control freak. Now I just want to move on and meet someone new. How can I get back in the scene again?” ~ C
I'm really sorry that you had such a terrible experience your last seven years of marriage. What I want to say to you is that number one to get back in the scene again you have to leave the baggage behind. You don't want to walk into the dating scene carrying a heavy weight on your shoulders ... that is your old relationship story ....your old experience being with a control freak. You need to get very, very clear about how that relationship served you. What did you learn from it? How were you inspired to become someone different from it? What did being with someone controlling and being in a terrible relationship teach you? Come out with the gold. Come out with the gifts.
That is the starting point for you for getting back into the dating scene.
So once you have that clarity and you come in fresh with all this new knowledge, al this new insight and all this empowerment then secondly you need a relationship makeover meaning discovering who you are as a lover today. You are different than the lover who entered into that relationship all those years ago.
Discover who she is, who she is emotionally? What does she need? What can she give physically mentally and spiritually?
Cultivate ...get into that great experience of cultivation and nurturing the lover in you. That is going to be very attractive to a new person.
The makeup and the wardrobe come after you have actually made over the lover within yourself. Do both. Enjoy the process. And come fresh, refreshed for love.
Thirdly I suggest trying Sacred Love Dating. You can find someone great to interact with and perhaps to start a relationship with. It is available nationally in the United States as well as UK. So you can choose. It is a great way to get back out there and start to connect but come without the baggage and come as a new lover.
Singles: If you are seeking a quality meaningful dating relationship in the US or the UK, even true love, SacredLove.com offers you the chance to start a free dating profile right now with our Sacred Love Dating membership service. Begin meeting quality singles today.
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Today is a day to open up to and celebrate love in a whole new way ... as your ultimate lifestyle!