How to Choose a Really Great Lover

How to Choose a Really Great Lover (via OM Times Magazine)

New Year in Love 2012

Today I want to speak to you about your New Year in Love

What is it going to look like? What is it going to feel like? What is the experience going to be like for you? This is the perfect moment to choose... a perfect moment to start a new love life for yourself.

How would you do that? I would suggest creating a vision and I encourage you to Vision Big.

You can create a vision of love based on your deepest inner knowing of what the experience could be like for you! How would you express your love? How would you express your intellect and your spirit and your physicality?

So to craft your new vision for 2012 I want to encourage you to utilize multimedia. If you are inspired by art create a vision board. It could be out of any material or medium that you so choose. If you are business oriented person make a PowerPoint of your vision for love of in 2012. If you're a musician or musical play your guitar, drums or sing to add your talent into your vision for love in 2012.

Whatever way you choose to express yourself, really create a vision that you can grow into, that you can become more of yourself by experiencing.

Now one thing in making a vision and another in Creating the Reality of that Vision.

You Create Your Vision by keeping it as a Vigil... coming back to it, listening to it, looking at it, reading it... again and again until it becomes real. And as thing start to manifest into reality you check them off or you circle them or you draw a big smiley face on that part of the vision that is actually occurring! So you can hold your vision accountable! You can measure it!!

Now a vision will not work, even if you put the vision together, the music together or the journal together. It will not work if you keep spending your time focusing on what isn't right or what hasn't happened, what your past experiences have been like that were unfulfilling. If you keep your mind in that place, your emotions in that place this new vision cannot take root. It takes incredible discipline to be vigilant about your vision but I know that it is possible for you!!

And I want to encourage you to really go for it this year. For a New Year in Love create a vision and keep it vigil.

For some help with getting started with your New Vision in Love that will work for singles as well as couples check this out.

Happy New Year and New Love! from www.sacredlove.com

Giving Thanks for Love

Today I would like to speak to you about gratitude in love.

So often we are focused on what we would rather experience in a relationship or what we are yearning to experience in our love lives. And we fail to account for the love that is actually present for us now.

And so I want to take a moment to talk about that because as we acknowledge the love that is

here for us now it provides the support for more love to grow.

I want to take this moment to acknowledge Self-Love. How do you love yourself? That is such an important part of the whole love equation. How are you loving yourself? How are you honoring yourself? How are you respecting yourself? Take that love into account, that love that is present.

I also encourage you to acknowledge family love. Loving Family Relationships that have been there for you through time. Take this moment to acknowledge them.

Also your Friends, the loving friendships that you have that have seen you through ups and downs and different stages of your life.

The Colleagues that you share with on a regular basis that you laugh with that you create with, that you work hard with. Acknowledging those relationships.

And the relationships in your Community. Whether that is at the post office, at the coffee shop, at a newstand. The people that you interact with everyday... acknowledging those relationships. And lastly, I want to acknowledge the love that is present, percolating and growing in your Intimate love life.

Wherever you are in the continuum... whether that is single, dating in a new relationship or have been with someone for decades acknowledge the love that is present for you right now. The love that is in the air, that is starting to form, that has been there and getting better with age. Taking this moment to really appreciate the love that you have in your life.

I encourage you to take a moment to write to some of the people that you love today, whether it is a line, a quote, a poem or a paragraph saying hey I really appreciate you.

I want to Thank You for being a very important part of the Sacred Love Community.

And I want to wish you a very Loving Thanksgiving!

We are here to support you in enjoying Your Ultimate Love Life now.

Relationship Advice and Dating Tips Ask Karinna: Back in the Scene

“I have just recently divorced. The last 7 years of marriage have been terrible. I was living with a very immature control freak. Now I just want to move on and meet someone new. How can I get back in the scene again?” ~ C

I'm really sorry that you had such a terrible experience your last seven years of marriage. What I want to say to you is that number one to get back in the scene again you have to leave the baggage behind. You don't want to walk into the dating scene carrying a heavy weight on your shoulders ... that is your old relationship story ....your old experience being with a control freak. You need to get very, very clear about how that relationship served you. What did you learn from it? How were you inspired to become someone different from it? What did being with someone controlling and being in a terrible relationship teach you? Come out with the gold. Come out with the gifts.

That is the starting point for you for getting back into the dating scene.

So once you have that clarity and you come in fresh with all this new knowledge, al this new insight and all this empowerment then secondly you need a relationship makeover meaning discovering who you are as a lover today. You are different than the lover who entered into that relationship all those years ago.

Discover who she is, who she is emotionally? What does she need? What can she give physically mentally and spiritually?

Cultivate ...get into that great experience of cultivation and nurturing the lover in you. That is going to be very attractive to a new person.

The makeup and the wardrobe come after you have actually made over the lover within yourself. Do both. Enjoy the process. And come fresh, refreshed for love.

Thirdly I suggest trying Sacred Love Dating. You can find someone great to interact with and perhaps to start a relationship with. It is available nationally in the United States as well as UK. So you can choose. It is a great way to get back out there and start to connect but come without the baggage and come as a new lover.

Love Advice Ask Karinna: Dating Disappearance

Dating Disappearance

Today I'm going to answer a question that I get all the time about disappearing. Often in the dating process one person disappears.

They may disappear once for 48 or 72 hours. They may disappear for a couple of weeks or they may disappear altogether. This creates incredible distress, hurt, confusion and pain. It has become a chronic issue over the last 10 years.

One of the core fundamental reasons it happens is because we have become so reliant on technology to communicate through. We very rarely use the telephone and even more rarely do we wait until we see each other to communicate. So these quick sound bites in communication either through texting or e-mail or even skype chat can be confused for a real conversation.

We have also become very quick to disconnect. For the person this is happening to, they actually start to feel disposable.

There is a portion of people who disappear that just feel overwhelmed, and they can't manage every single thing in their life and so they manage by just not communicating, just dropping the conversation. It is a really, really bad habit.

While everything cannot be a priority in your life, people must be priorities. It doesn't matter if this is a person that you just started dating or someone you have developed a relationship with for 3 months or someone that you've been involved with for years.

Another portion of people that disappear are very self centered. And basically highly value their own experience over someone else's. It is a statement about skill level of that person as a partner, where they’re interest lies and the value that they place on relationships in the personal arena.

I really recommend that you take a long look at your relationships and where you can step up in your communication.

This frees up energy for both people to move on. When you don't communicate, when you don't respect the other person, when you don't close the circle, it leaves so much energy hanging. And it does create a lot more animosity, a field of conflict and ultimately gives you a bad rap!

For those people who are experiencing disappearances in their love life I recommend that any time you even sense that it is occurring…. you name it ….you call it for what it is …..and you communicate that you are not going to accept that kind of behavior. It is not on the level of which you want to be in a relationship.

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