Thursday, July 31, 2014

Why They Disappear?

Often, in the dating process one person disappears.  They may disappear once for 48 or 72 hours.  They may disappear for a couple of weeks or they may disappear altogether.  And this creates incredible distress, hurt, confusion and pain.  It has become a chronic issue over the last 10 years and have occur fundamental reasons it happens is because we become so reliant on technology to communicate through.  We very rarely use the telephone and even more rarely do we wait ‘til we see each other to communicate.  And so, these quick sound bites in communication either for texting or email or even skype chat can be confused for a real conversation.

We’ve also become very quick to disconnect.  For the person it’s happening to, they actually start to feel disposable.  There’s a portion of people who disappear that just feel overwhelmed and they can’t managed every single thing in their life.  And so, they may be managed by just not communicating, just dropping the conversation.

It’s really really bad habit while everything cannot be a priority in your life people must be priorities.  It doesn’t matter if they are someone that you just started dating or someone you’ve develop a relationship with for months or someone that you’ve been involve with for years.

Another portion of individuals that disappear are very self-centered and basically highly value their own experience over someone else’s.  It is a statement about skill level of that person as a partner where their interest lies and about the value that plays on relationships in the personal arena.  I really recommend that you take a long look at your relationships and where you could step up in your communication.

This freeze up energy for both people to move on when you don’t communicate, when you don’t respect the other person, when you don’t close the circle it leaves so much energy hanging and it does create a lot more animosity, a field of conflict and ultimately gives you a bad rap. 

For those people who are experiencing disappearances in their life and their love life, I recommend that anytime you even sensed that it’s occurring you name it, you call it for what it is and you communicate that you’re not going to accept that kind of behavior.  You just not, on the level of which that you want to be in relationship. 

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