I saw Ted Haggard and his wife Gayle on Larry King last night.
It seems like he/they have done some soul searching and repair work. She seems like a saint. That is well…I'm not sure.
I have some big thoughts about ministers who pound people with their opinions about sex, when they should have or not have sex and who they should or should not have sex with and then turn around and do the very thing that they are preaching against.
But the worst for me is Ted going after young men in his church such as Haas who has said following his hidden relationship with Haggard, there was a period of isolation, struggles with drinking, drugs and suicide attempts.
Compassion and forgiveness were thrown around in last night’s interview alot. They are easy words but how do you make up for screwing with a young person’s head and body which often takes decades to get over it, if ever.
Yes, I believe that you can process your painful experiences and abuses of power in the case of Haas with the help of good counselors and heal, but after how long. Or in Haggard’s case process the dichotomy and destructive behavior and become more conscious about who you are but after what cost to so many others.
In general I think Evangelicals are hesitant to talk through their sexual identity with anyone and are generally weary of counselors outside of church environments because they believe anything other than marital heterosexual sex in un-Christian. I think this narrow parameter of acceptable sexual activity is the crux of so many sexual distortions leading to sexual deviance.
If anything from the interview last night I hope that Haggard brought to light the importance and aide of good therapy to relieve wrestling with sexuality and personal demons. That is what Ted professed had happened for him.
Gayle Haggard seemed strong. Ted seemed clearer. They seemed united in their marriage after coming through a major, horrifying chapter of betrayal and abuse that affected their relationship and many others.
Role Models? You tell me.