Sunday, August 09, 2015

Why FIRST LOVE Never Dies

by Vladlena Lee

7 Reasons Why First Love is So Powerful...

There is no specific reason why first love is so powerful, because it’s an accumulation of small details that make it momentous. It’s filled with intense and passionate emotions that you think will last forever, which may be the reason why everyone says first love is hard to forget. However, it makes perfect sense because it’s the first time you truly love and feel loved by a person outside your family. Even when that #relationship is over, it remains as a big part of who you are. So in case you were wondering, here are a number of reasons why first love is so powerful.


The second you fall in love for the first time, you suddenly realize the difference between loving someone and liking someone. You notice that having a #crush on someone is nothing compared to loving a person unconditionally. Getting a sudden surge of emotions that you may have never felt before and being introduced to those feelings for the first #time is why first love is so powerful.


It’s interesting how even years after falling in love and moving on to other #people, you never truly forget the first person you fell in love with and the memories you've shared. You might not think about them on a daily basis, but they pop into your head every once in a while. Nobody can blame you for that because at some point in your life, those memories made you extremely happy.


Although the love of your life can’t really compare to your first love, first love always has a special place in your heart. There is something about that bond that you make with the first person you love that can’t be compared to anything else. Not only that, but first love is filled with firsts: first ‘I love you,’ first heartbreak, etc.


Some often use their first love as a standard for their future relationships because that was all they knew back then. For example, if their first love was exciting and passionate, other relationships might seem dull in comparison. And when other relationships don’t meet their standards, first love becomes ever more valuable and memorable.


Once your first love pops back into your mind, you always wonder how he is doing now and where life has taken him. You become so curious that you might check up on him using social media or casually ask an old friend who is still in touch with him. It’s completely normal to still be interested in him years later, as long as you are not overly curious.


With first love, there is always first heartbreak because for most of us, first loves don't last. You might not be the same #people you used to be when you got together and go separate ways, but that first heartbreak will take a toll on you. Just like all the happy memories you've shared together, your first heartbreak registers in your brain and adds on to the importance of that #relationship.


No matter how much time passes, you will always care about the person you first fell in love with to some degree. You might not feel those same butterflies in your #stomach, but there will be something deep down in your heart for that person. You can’t really describe it, because it’s not love anymore but it’s not indifference either!
Memories of our first love are just reminders of young love that we have once experienced. So let’s take a trip down memory lane and remember the first #time we fell in love! How would you describe your first love? Share in the comments!
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Karissa said...

I think first love will always lingered in tour mind even if you're in some one elses life.Because its happening I can still feel how important he is even if it was been layered 28 years ago👈✌🌻☝️

Unknown said...

Due to my husband’s loneliness with cancer, he expressed his feelings and thoughts about his first love. I was hurt and shocked. While reading his verses, I was tearing into pieces. He trully loves his ex. I also have my first love but, I never recall for it will hurt him as my husband. I confronted him but never admits.he said they were only verses. I forgive, anyway, he is sick with terminal illness bit look! He will die thinking of his first love and not me the wife???

Unknown said...

I totally feel like I understand this. How can we be the #1 when obviously things don't stand as so..... Wtf do we do

LaurKen said...

I met him 50 years ago Coming August of 2021. It wasn’t love at first site for either of but there was a 12 & 13 yr old fascination with each other. The next night he called me. Asked what kind of dog I had, he then told me I was cute and asked in typical 1971 parlance, if I’d “go with him”. Without giving it a second thought, without having a smidge of emotion for this boy, I said yes. But I fell fast and hard and it was the single most all encompassing feeling I’d ever has and if I’m to be honest, it’s an emotion I’ve yet to comoletelyhduplicatebtofay, 50 years later. Oh I’ve loved other men, been in lengthy relationships but never married. Why? Career, wrong relationship choices, bad timing..a host other reasons. Mark broke up, without ever explaining why and it was in the midst of my parents’ very tumultuous divorce. I was devastated for years,

Make no mistake, I don’t love Mark any more, but something is there. I'm not sure what it is or has always been, but it’s quite, not always when it rears its head it’s very much there. Maybe it’s poignancy, a bitter sweet carefree memory of youth before mortgages and debt... a sweetness despite the devastation of being ghosted.

I’d heard years later that he never stopped loving me and had kept up,with me, with my career choices in various cities, over the years. But unlike me, he got married, has kids and now is a grandfather. I doubt he still loves me despite what he might think. What he feels is probably what was I feel, maybe what anyone who’s ever had a life altering & significant first love feels. It’s just that sticky, gooey, permanent substance—a kind of immature residual love that comes when first loves end. Like a certain kind of scar tissue that’s the stuff a first love permanently places on your heart and soul to remind you how pure and innocent it all was and mostly, how absolutely wonderful first loves are no matter how horrible they might end.

For Mark, 1971

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