Friday, March 21, 2014

Trust in Intimate Relationship

It is a probability that most of us have been touched by the hurt of betrayal or abandonment in an intimate relationship, whether by a parent, lover, friend, wife, or husband.

On the cover of tabloids we see stories daily of people cheating on one another and leaving long-term relationships for someone new. These popular negative messages and familiar experiences can make anyone feel pessimistic about love and become fearful if there really is a relationship that could be worthy of their trust.

Trustworthy relationships do exist and in them we find both individuals and relationships that are thriving. But how does one go about finding and experiencing a trusting, intimate relationship?

Creating a trustworthy relationship can be accomplished with the following steps:

Piercing Through the Veil of the First Intoxication

Our eyes can be blinded by love. In a cloud of initial admiration we can get swept away in just the possibility of love. The intoxication of this experience is powerful, and for the moments we are in it we can feel like life is at its best. In these moments we can project all of our dreams onto the person we desire. And whether this individual is able to or not, they become pinned as the highway to our happiness and fulfillment.

Attraction to one or several qualities in another can be immediate; however, it is important to regard what lies beneath the initial appeal.

Trust Our Own Knowing

Intuition can be one of our greatest allies when seeking an intimate relationship that is worthy of our trust. First intuitions can be right and often we forget them quickly.
Trust your own knowing of what feels right to you and what doesn't. Don't be afraid to question your perceptions. You will most often find out that there is validity to your hunches.

Present Discernment

Seeing clearly what is right in front of us is an important skill for creating an intimate relationship that we can trust.

Many of us have found ourselves falling into that well intended pitfall of seeing the potential in someone. Our projections of someone can leave us living in the hope of the future and illusions instead of trusting what is present right now.

Figuring out who we can trust can be difficult when we ourselves are challenged with being blind-sighted. For instance, we might be kept from seeing someone's potential (or limitations) as an emotionally committed partner if he or she has a hard time communicating their affectionate and love to us or can't keep their eyes and hands off other people. Another example would be banking solely on the potential in an individual's worldly success if he or she were not already committed to a path of success in their lives.

People are capable of amazing feats of change, especially when they are committed to self-reflection and growth. However, awareness and discernment of what values, strengths, patterns, pursuits and actions are present within a person in the present moment will more accurately define who that person is and will become.

By taking our rose-colored glasses off and taking a good thorough look at what is right in front of us we are more capable of gauging a person we can trust.

Act with Integrity

If you seek a trustworthy intimate partner, be the person you wish to be in relationship with. Speak honestly, keep your word, and act with integrity with yourself and the person you love as well as with other people.

It is important to resource ourselves with real nourishment, self-love, exercise, spiritual wisdom, and also with healthy foods, thoughts, and activities. If we do not fill ourselves with real nourishment we come to a relationship from a place of emptiness. Emptiness produces wanting and neediness that creates a variety of behaviors that push away what we really want in a loving, trusting, healthy relationship.

For instance, emotional neediness can alienate a potentially wonderful intimate partner and good friend. Physical wanting can turn into provoking the sexual attention of your coworkers, flirting with your friend's partners, and having indiscriminant sex. These behaviors are signs of emptiness and a lack of self-love that produces distrust of your character and the opposite of what you really desire.

Take care of yourself so that your inner being is harmonious and integrated.

Overcoming Hurt

If you have been hurt by an untrustworthy partner it is hard to want to trust again or to fully commit to being trustworthy yourself, however that just creates a pattern of disharmony and untrustworthiness in your life. Even though it may be challenging, create a trustworthy identity through your words and actions that will develop more trust in yourself and draw more trust into your life.

Surround Yourself with Trustworthy People

Take the time to assess the people in your life and be honest with yourself if each friend and close relationship that you have surrounded yourself with acts with trustworthiness.

By analyzing your relationships you will see how much trust is already in your life and where you need to create more. Creating a support system of trustworthy people will help you cultivate better discernment for developing a trustworthy, intimate relationship.

Trusting Relationship

If you are seeking a loving relationship that you can trust, you must make decisions more thoughtfully, more wisely, with deeper connectivity to your intuition rather than your hormones or mental rational. Be clear about what is present in a prospective partner and relationship, act with trustworthiness and integrity, and surround yourself with people you can trust.

Developing trust more fully allows us the opportunity to experience feeling safe in loving relationships. Then we can begin to open our hearts, relax our bodies, and share our dreams to our greatest ability with a partner truly worthy of our trust.


divyapriya said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
sangeetha sathyan said...
This comment has been removed by the author.
Professional Course said...

Happy to chat on your blog, I feel like I can't wait to read more reliable posts and think we all want to thank many blog posts to share with us.

Business Analytics Course in Bangalore

Edison hope said...

I love your post and what you share with us is updated and quite informative, I would like to bookmark the page so that I can come here again for you to read, because you have done an amazing job. Turkey Visa for US Citizens, an Online Visa. An online visa system has been introduced that allows citizens to obtain a visit visa electronically.

ServiceNow Training in Hyderabad - DettifossIT said...

Good Article. Thank you for sharing! Really an awesome post for learn everyone.
Servicenow Training In Bangalore

Robert smith said...

Nice post. I love to keep up the good work.... International applicants may apply for an e visas for India. Read on to get deeper insight about e visa via India e visa.

Customer Support | Live Chat Service said...

How to Deal with Search Not Working in Outlook?

If you are looking for the steps for search not working in Outlook then you need to start by going through simple troubleshooting steps to deal with it. Before diving into the Outlook specific fixes, you need to use the Windows troubleshooters. To start with Windows search troubleshooter,start > settings >update and security. From here, choose the troubleshoot, proceed to the additional troubleshooters and then choose search and indexing option. Lastly, run the troubleshooter. Follow these steps to deal with Outlook search is not working problem.

traininginstitute said...

I read that Post and got it fine and informative. Please share more like that...
full stack developer course with placement

Edison hope said...

Great blog. This is very inspiring and informative content thanks for sharing with us.. Well done. Oh, you're always more than welcome. So now it's time to pack your bags and enjoy your trip. We're looking forward to seeing you in Cherokee. The Turkish e visa is brought to you by the Turkish ministry of foreign affairs.

Heilaya Kutreeki said...

Your article is easy to read and understand. I would like to read more articles like this. Getting a Turkey e visa online is a hassle free process. It saves time and money as well.

henryisabella said...

Top Adventurous Things to Do in Turkey. One of the top adventurous things to do in Turkey is hot air ballooning over Cappadocia's stunning rock formations. The breathtaking views and the unique experience of floating above the otherworldly landscape make it a must-try activity.

Henry Evelyn said...

I sincerely appreciate your clear kindness in making this priceless material available for sharing. Passports Of These Countries Are Banned In At Least One World Country. These restrictions might be brought on by diplomatic, security, or political considerations. Travelers with passports from these countries could run into problems while trying to visit some countries. For a pleasant and trouble-free trip, people must do their homework and keep up to date on the limits and criteria for visas imposed by various nations. Travelers can make appropriate plans and prevent problems by being aware of these restrictions.

carry john said...

As of my last update in September 2021, the cost of a visit visa Saudi arabia price based on nationality, duration, and purpose of the visit. It's recommended to check official Saudi government websites for the latest pricing information.

carry john said...

Hello! Your ongoing support is truly invaluable, driving us to craft increasingly captivating content. We appreciate you being our muse and motivating force, inspiring us to persist in our creative endeavors. Thank you! Experience the convenience of the evisa to moscow Simplify your travel with easy online application, swift processing, and explore the vibrant Russian capital hassle-free.

Edison hope said...

You're absolutely amazing! 😃 I don't think I've come across anything quite like this before. 🤩 It's fantastic to discover someone with such unique ideas on this subject. 🌟 Thank you so much for initiating this, and your website is truly a valuable addition to the internet. 🌐 We need more individuals like you who bring originality to the table! 🙌👏 Many people are also inquiring about the Indian visa cost for US citizens. You can find more information about it on our website.

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...