This is a wonderful relationship question to ponder.
How does one create a foundation for a high quality relationship? There are few essential aspects to creating a high quality relationship.
One is respect. Respect each other. You know when you’re feeling respect for another person, when you value them. You value their time. You value their presence. You value their heart. You value what they have to say. You value their body. You respect them.
You also know what it feels like to be respected. When you feel really good being with someone. When you feel that you’re on solid ground. When you feel supported and loved for who you are in all the aspects of yourself. You know when you are truly respected.
Now, if you have time together. When you set aside time to just be together and the other person is on their cellphone, texting or calling, you know you’re not being respected when you have to call the other person into alignment with you.
Are you really here for this relationship at this moment? Or other things are going to take priority in this moment.
Now, there are a lot of different moments in a day when we can prioritize work and we can prioritize children and we can prioritize vast responsibilities in our life but we have to give our relationships respect.
Secondly, focus on your independence. Keep passion about something and enjoy going after it and learning about it and doing something that’s meaningful to you and meaningful in general. This gives you a lot of juice for life and it also gives you a lot to bring back to your relationship to nourish and expand the possibilities there.
And thirdly, focus on the elements that make a partnership rich, the things that make it romantic. When you can communicate - I adore you, I cherish you, I love you, I want to be with you right now through your actions, through your words. Then you are keeping your relationship alive and thriving.
The notes, the flowers on the bedside, this special date that you set up, listening to your partner when they’ve had a really challenging moment or giving your partner some loving care, running them a bubble bath or giving them a massage when they’re feeling stressed out. All these little things. Say to your partnership, I want to be with you and you alone. And this is what you set a lot in thriving.
You are the ones needed in our relationships by letting everything in the world become more of a priority than are intimacy by letting everything in the world take precedence and we kill it with nicety instead of truth. We kill it with dinners instead of you present with each other.
We are responsible for making it as great as it can be.
I encourage you, I challenge you to lay down the foundation for a high quality relationship. It will serve you for years to come.